Kodi nkhanza zapakhomo ndi chiyani?
Nkhanza zapabanja zitha kukhala zakuthupi, zamalingaliro, zamalingaliro, zandalama, kapena zogonana zomwe zimachitika muubwenzi wapamtima, nthawi zambiri ndi zibwenzi, zibwenzi zakale kapena achibale.
Kuphatikiza pa nkhanza zakuthupi, nkhanza zapakhomo zimatha kukhala ndi machitidwe ankhanza ndi olamulira osiyanasiyana, kuphatikizapo kuopseza, kuzunzidwa, kulamulira ndalama ndi kuzunzidwa maganizo.
Nkhanza zakuthupi ndi gawo limodzi lokha la nkhanza za m'banja ndipo khalidwe la wozunza likhoza kukhala losiyana, kuchokera pakuchita nkhanza kwambiri ndi zonyansa mpaka kuchita zing'onozing'ono zomwe zimakuchititsani manyazi. Anthu amene amachitiridwa nkhanza m’banja kaŵirikaŵiri amasiyidwa akudzimva kukhala osungulumwa ndiponso otopa. Nkhanza zapakhomo zimaphatikizanso nkhani za chikhalidwe monga nkhanza zotengera ulemu.
Kuwongolera machitidwe: Ntchito zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimapangidwira kuti munthu akhale wocheperako komanso / kapena wodalira powapatula ku magwero othandizira, kugwiritsa ntchito zinthu zomwe ali nazo komanso kuthekera kwawo, kuwalanda njira zofunikira kuti adziyimire paokha komanso kuthawa komanso kuwongolera machitidwe awo a tsiku ndi tsiku.
Khalidwe lokakamiza: Mchitidwe kapena machitidwe omenyedwa, kuwopseza, kuchititsa manyazi ndi kuwopseza kapena nkhanza zina zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito kuvulaza, kulanga, kapena kuwopseza wozunzidwayo.
Tanthauzo la Honor Based Violence (Association of Police Officers (ACPO)): Mlandu kapena chochitika, chomwe chapangidwa kapena chapangidwa kuti chiteteze kapena kuteteza ulemu wa banja / kapena dera.
Zizindikiro zake ndi ziti?
Kudzudzula kowononga ndi kunyoza: kukuwa/kunyoza/kunamizira/kutchula mayina/kuwopseza mwamawu
Mayendedwe a Pressure: kukwiya, kukuwopsezani kuti akubisirani ndalama, kuletsa foni, kutengera galimoto, kudzipha, kutenga ana, kukuwuzani mabungwe opereka chithandizo pokhapokha ngati mutatsatira zomwe akufuna pakulera ana, kunamiza anzanu ndi achibale anu. inu, ndikukuuzani kuti mulibe chochita muzosankha zilizonse.
Kusalemekeza: kukuikani pansi pamaso pa anthu mosalekeza, kusamvetsera kapena kuyankha pamene mukulankhula, kudodometsa mafoni anu, kutenga ndalama m'chikwama chanu osapempha, kukana kuthandiza kusamalira ana kapena ntchito zapakhomo.
Kuthetsa chikhulupiriro: kukunamiza, kukubisirani zambiri, kuchita nsanje, kukhala ndi maubwenzi ena, kuphwanya malonjezo komanso kugawana mapangano.
Kutalikirana: kuyang’anira kapena kutsekereza mafoni anu, kukuuzani kumene mungapite ndi kumene simungathe kupita, kukulepheretsani kuonana ndi anzanu ndi achibale.
Chizunzo: kukutsatirani, kukuyenderani, kutsegula makalata anu, kuyang'ana mobwerezabwereza kuti muwone yemwe wakuimbirani foni, kukuchititsani manyazi pamaso pa anthu.
Zopseza: kupanga maginito okwiya, kugwiritsira ntchito ukulu wakuthupi kukuwopsyezani, kukufuulani pansi, kuwononga katundu wanu, kuthyola zinthu, kumenya makoma, kunyamula mpeni kapena mfuti, kuwopseza kukupha kapena kuvulaza inu ndi ana.
Nkhanza zogonana: kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu, kukuwopsezani kapena kukuwopsezani kuti muzichita zachiwerewere, kugonana nanu pomwe simukufuna kuchita zogonana, kuchita chilichonse chonyozeka potengera zomwe mumakonda.
Nkhanza zakuthupi: kukhomerera, kumenya, kumenya, kuluma, kukanira, kukankha, kutulutsa tsitsi, kukankha, kukankhana, kuyaka moto, kunyonga.
Dana: kunena kuti nkhanza sizichitika, kunena kuti ndiwe wayambitsa khalidwe lachipongwe, kukhala wodekha ndi wodekha poyera, kulira ndi kupempha chikhululukiro, kunena kuti sizidzachitikanso.
Ndingatani?
- Lankhulani ndi wina: Yesetsani kulankhula ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira ndi amene angakuthandizeni kuti mupeze chithandizo choyenera pa nthawi yoyenera.
- Osadziimba mlandu: Nthawi zambiri ozunzidwa adzadzimva kuti ali ndi mlandu, chifukwa umu ndi momwe wolakwirayo angawapangitse kumva.
- Lumikizanani nafe ku COMPASS, Nambala Yothandizira ya Essex Domestic Abuse: Imbani pa 0330 3337444 kuti muthandizidwe komanso mothandiza.
- Pezani thandizo la akatswiri: Mungathe kupeza chithandizo kuchokera ku bungwe loona za nkhanza za m’banja m’dera lanu kapena ife a COMPASS tingakutumizeni kudera lanu.
- Nenani kwa Apolisi: Ngati muli pachiwopsezo ndikofunikira kuti muyimbire ku 999. Palibe mlandu umodzi wa 'nkhanza zapakhomo', komabe pali mitundu ingapo ya nkhanza zomwe zimachitika zomwe zitha kukhala zolakwira. Izi zingaphatikizepo: ziwopsezo, kuzunzidwa, kuzemberana, kuwonongeka kwaupandu ndi kuwongolera mokakamiza kutchulapo zochepa chabe.
Kodi ndingathandize bwanji mnzanga kapena wachibale?
Kudziwa kapena kuganiza kuti munthu amene mumamukonda ali paubwenzi wankhanza kungakhale kovuta kwambiri. Mutha kuopa chitetezo chawo - ndipo mwina pazifukwa zomveka. Mungafune kuwapulumutsa kapena kuumirira kuti achoke, koma wamkulu aliyense ayenera kusankha yekha zochita.
Mkhalidwe uliwonse ndi wosiyana, ndipo anthu okhudzidwa nawonso ndi osiyana. Nazi njira zina zothandizira wokondedwa amene akuchitiridwa nkhanza:
- Khalani ochirikiza. Mvetserani kwa wokondedwa wanu. Kumbukirani kuti zingakhale zovuta kwa iwo kulankhula za nkhanza. Auzeni kuti sali okha komanso kuti anthu akufuna kukuthandizani. Ngati akufuna thandizo, afunseni zomwe mungachite.
- Perekani thandizo lenileni. Munganene kuti ndinu okonzeka kumvetsera, kuwathandiza kusamalira ana, kapena kupereka thiransipoti, mwachitsanzo.
- Musawaike manyazi, kuwaimba mlandu, kapena kuwaimba mlandu. Osanena kuti, “Mungoyenera kuchoka.” M'malo mwake, nenani mawu ngati, "Ndimachita mantha ndikaganizira zomwe zingakuchitikireni." Auzeni kuti mukumvetsa kuti mkhalidwe wawo ndi wovuta kwambiri.
- Athandizeni kupanga dongosolo lachitetezo. Kukonzekera chitetezo kungaphatikizepo kulongedza zinthu zofunika ndikuwathandiza kupeza mawu otetezeka. Awa ndi mawu achinsinsi omwe angagwiritse ntchito kukudziwitsani kuti ali pachiwopsezo popanda wozunza akudziwa. Zingaphatikizeponso kuvomereza malo oti akakumane nawo ngati akuyenera kuchoka mwachangu.
- Alimbikitseni kuti alankhule ndi wina kuti awone zomwe angasankhe. Perekani kuwathandiza kuti alankhule nafe ku COMPASS pa 0330 3337444 kapena mwachindunji ndi chithandizo cha nkhanza zapakhomo m'dera lawo.
- Ngati asankha kukhalabe, pitirizani kuwathandiza. Angasankhe kupitirizabe chibwenzicho, kapena angachoke kenako n’kubwerera. Zingakhale zovuta kuti mumvetsetse, koma anthu amakhalabe muubwenzi wankhanza pazifukwa zambiri. Khalani wochirikiza, ziribe kanthu zomwe asankha kuchita.
- Alimbikitseni kuti azicheza ndi anzawo komanso achibale awo. Ndikofunika kuti iwo aziwona anthu omwe alibe chiyanjano. Landirani yankho ngati anena kuti sangathe.
- Ngati aganiza zochoka, pitirizani kupereka chithandizo. Ngakhale kuti chibwenzicho chingathe, nkhanza sizingakhalepo. Angakhale achisoni ndi osungulumwa, kusangalala ndi kupatukana sikungathandize. Kupatukana ndi nthawi yowopsa muubwenzi wozunza, kuwathandiza kuti apitirize kuchita nawo ntchito yothandizira nkhanza zapakhomo.
- Adziwitseni kuti mudzakhalapo nthawi zonse zivute zitani. Zingakhale zokhumudwitsa kwambiri kuona mnzako kapena wokondedwa akukhalabe paubwenzi wankhanza. Koma mukathetsa chibwenzi chanu, ali ndi malo amodzi opanda chitetezo oti apiteko mtsogolo. Simungakakamize munthu kusiya chibwenzi, koma mutha kuwadziwitsa kuti muthandiza, chilichonse chomwe angasankhe kuchita.
Titani ndi zomwe umatiuza?
Zili ndi inu zomwe mwasankha kutiuza. Mukalumikizana nafe tidzakufunsani mafunso ambiri, izi ndichifukwa choti tikufuna kukuthandizani ndipo tikufunika kudziwa zambiri za inu, banja lanu komanso nyumba yanu kuti tikupatseni upangiri woyenera ndikukutetezani. Ngati simukufuna kugawana zambiri zomwe zimakuzindikiritsani, titha kukupatsani upangiri ndi chidziwitso choyambirira koma sitingathe kutumiza vuto lanu kwa wothandizira nthawi zonse. Tidzafunsanso funso lofanana, lomwe mungakane kuyankha, timachita izi kuti tiwone momwe timathandizira pofikira anthu ochokera m'mitundu yonse ku Essex.
Tikakutsegulirani fayilo, tidzamaliza kuwunika zomwe zingachitike komanso zosowa zanu ndikutumiza fayilo yanu kwa omwe akupitilira chithandizo cha nkhanza zapakhomo kuti akulumikizani. Zambirizi zimasamutsidwa pogwiritsa ntchito kasamalidwe kathu kotetezedwa.
Tidzangogawana zambiri ndi mgwirizano wanu, komabe pali zosiyana ndi izi pomwe titha kugawana ngakhale simukuvomereza;
Ngati pali chiwopsezo kwa inu, mwana kapena munthu wamkulu yemwe ali pachiwopsezo tingafunike kugawana ndi chisamaliro cha anthu kapena Apolisi kuti akutetezeni inu kapena munthu wina.
Ngati pali chiwopsezo chaupandu waukulu monga kupezeka kwamfuti kapena chiopsezo chachitetezo cha anthu tingafunike kugawana ndi Apolisi.
